Wednesday, March 11, 2009

For My Husband

Last week was my wonderful husband's birthday. I really wanted to make the day special for him. I'm afraid I don't show appreciation for him often enough and I really wanted him to know and feel that on his birthday. I thought and thought about it and even prayed about it. There weren't any gifts that he really wanted. Spending money on him doesn't make him feel loved. Saving money is the way to go for him. I even asked him what he wanted. He said he wanted me to surprise him. Finally the day before his birthday I got some ideas. We got him a few simple gifts: a movie he could watch with the kids and some of his favorite snack foods. I also planned to clean our bedroom (and as much of the rest of the house as we could possibly manage). It doesn't happen very often, but when it does it makes him very happy. And I planned to dress up for him. He always comments on Sunday's when I am dressed and ready to go to church how much he likes seeing me dressed up. On every other day I don't do my hair, I wear jeans and holey sneakers and a slightly nice t-shirt, and he comes home to pandemonium and is so patient about it all. I wanted his birthday, of all days, to be better! Things definitely didn't look so bright when we got up that morning. But I sent him off to work and then got to work myself. With some good help from the kids, who were a little more motivated that day, we had the important things cleaned up (including a very clean bedroom), the table set, the presents wrapped, the cake done, balloons put up, his favorite dinner ready to go on the table, and me showered, dressed, and smelling good when he got home. He was really surprised and had an enjoyable birthday.

But I've been thinking since then, why don't I do that more often? Or even just a little of it way more often. I don't have to wait for his birthday or other special occasions. I really enjoy making him happy and showing him rather than just telling him that I love him. Somehow it makes me love him even more.


Jocie said...

Heck, Aimee, I'm the proverbial spinster and I know why you don't do that more often. It's not a "need to" like all the things you do for the kids each and every day. You know that your wonderful husband will love you anyway. But it's a great way to show him that you love him back, isn't it?

Lynsey said...

I think Jocie is right our husbands will always love us, but every now and then it's nice to do something nice for them. I read an article once that said you could put on a little mascara or blush before your hubby got home and that freshens up your look without to much effort.

LoraBelieves said...

Your post reminds me of one I read on Chocolate on my Crainum. It was a little while ago, when she said told about how they always use a table cloth when they eat together, because of a lesson her Grandmother had taught her. I think she said, "He's special, you need to treat him that way." I really liked that, and it made me think about trying to do something special for my honey everyday...well, often anyway.

I haven't read Austenland, but it's on my list. :)